Sometimes I push too hard — physically, emotionally, spiritually. I start digressing. It usually comes on slowly. I get signals. I start reacting to my kids in ways that I always have to go back and apologize for. I see the numbers on the scale creeping up. I feel my clothes getting tighter on me. I feel sore in my body in places that I don’t normally feel sore. I stop connecting with the people who know me best because I’m afraid they’re gonna call me out on my lack of balance. I don’t like to be called out. At all.
The longer I’m in practice and the more stripes I earn, the quicker I am able to catch myself turning right on Burnout Lane. Sometimes the ability to slow down for long enough to catch it and turn it around seems intangible. Over the years I have learned what works just right for me. And, it all happened naturally. I would go to my ritual, engage, and complete it, and feel so refreshed and renewed afterward.
Ok, here we go. My ritual to avoid burnout — a new calendar. It may seem ridiculous to you, but nothing does it for me like walking down the calendar aisle at my local Office Supplies store and starting fresh with a brand new calendar. It is a whole process. I have to touch every one, picture it in my life, in my bag, on my desk. Once I choose the right one, the ritual begins.
I go home, get my markers and highlighters out, and go for it. I reorganize my time, my appointments, my availability, my connection to my life. I do this a couple of times a year (at least).
My silly ritual absolutely does it for me. It allows me to take a new step, a new lease on life into the next chapter. Then I naturally recommit to my workouts, my nutrition, my rest days, my playdates, my whole life in balance.
If I don’t listen to the signs of burnout (and sometimes I don’t) I usually get to a point of pain, I hurt, sometimes so bad I can’t even move. It stops me. Then the break is forced. And that is never fun.
Find your thing. Find what does it for you. Discover how you like to reconnect and renew. Get really familiar with your signs, your signals of entering Burnout Lane. Avoid it at all costs. If you don’t listen and look for the signals, they will get louder and louder, and eventually take over. After many years in practice and at least 100,000+ adjustments served, my experience unfolds many truths. This is probably the number one doozer.
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I used to feel that the world was out to get me. I learned that feeling. I know that I learned it, because I also remember feeling — as a kid— that the world was my playground.
Somewhere along the way, I learned fear and STUCK and captivity. I was a victim and life had a lot in store for me. And I sang that tune until it no longer served me to. Until I got to a place (it took forty years) of shedding my WEAKENED BY THE WORLD skin and got strong. Inside and out. But I wasn't there, until I was there.
No-one could come along and get me there, until I was ready. And once I was ready, BOOM!
If you visit any bookstore and browse the personal growth section, it's UNBELIEVABLE how much content is out there. Everybody has a solution to get our THIS together and THAT together. The truth is that it's an inside job. And the other truth is, there is really NO TRUTH but your own. Where you are is where you are, right? You can't be further or less along the way than you are right now. So BE WITH IT. EMBRACE IT.
You can read the books, you can take the courses, but it's a day-to-day, hour-to-hour, minute-to-minute job to get you to realize the best version of yourself.
Spend 10 minutes at the end of each day reflecting on how you move through the world and the situations you come across. Think about moments where you bring people up rather than down, especially in your practice.
Ask yourself four questions...and answer them:
Did I mess up today?
How could I have been better/stronger/kinder?
What did I do right today?
Is there anyone or anything I need to make amends to from my actions today?
Do this daily, and watch your vision get clear. Your vision of practice growth, personal growth, and community growth.
Loving you from here,
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Over the past month, our community has spent a lot of time and energy studying money, finances, and the magical ways of attracting abundance. There was a lot of bravery demonstrated in our study, and even more growth. Yes, we focus a TON of attention on how to run a practice in an automated way, but we also cover the grounds of what to do once your practice is ROCKIN' it.
Boom. In walks money.
Money is energy.
Here we go with the energy talk...but hang tight! Money is a currency for goods, services and other energy. Energy in/energy out. Right? You can't disagree with that! Where attention goes, energy flows. Think water. Create a space for water to find, and the water will fill the space. And now money. Create the SPACE for money to grow, and watch what happens!
How do you create space for money? With change. A lot of change. And not the coins that jingle in the bottom of your bag. The hard stuff.
Replace the fear.
I used to be in a place of TOTAL fear with all things MONEY. As I matured in practice (and in life) and starting to collect some savings, I began to recognize some old messaging that was no longer fitting my new skin (or matching my new gray hairs). I knew it had to change if I wanted to realize wealth growth.
I would start to catch myself saying things like I can't afford that or I don't have enough. If I say that shit, I'm gonna create that shit. Doubt and fear are strong. Really strong. I would lose money, investments, or opportunities. I had what felt like bad juju, constantly making decisions about my practice and my budget that took me in circles. It was tiring and frustrating, and it went on and on...until I stopped it.
Trust and love are stronger than doubt and fear.
They say that the company you keep either brings you up or down. They are right. I got to a point (a few gray hairs later) where I wanted to change. My relationship with money was no longer serving me, my practice, or my family.
I bought the books, took the classes, did the meditations. But the biggest game changer was in the company I kept.
I started to choose people in my life who had what I wanted when it came to their relationship to money (and really the world in general). They were strong, and powerful, and saw themselves in a place of wealth. I emulated their courage and self-belief, and changed some very old habits.
My words have been replaced with I don't want to put my energy there or I have plenty but I am going to choose no. This change took time and practice. I had to act as if for a while. And then, one day, I woke up and believed it. Really.
Over the next 24 hours, watch how you talk about, think about, handle, organize, and spend money. The first step to any process of change is to identify that a change needs to happen. Take some time to be witness to the following:
Now, pen to paper. Write that shit out! Feel free to share below, or in our Facebook group any awesome AHA moments!
I interviewed Dr. Janice Hughes, who is becoming one of my favorite people, and for sure a role model with maturity and money. Listen to her languaging. Take notes. Lean in.
Loving you from here,
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Yep. Tragical to magical. One of the true joys of running an online school is getting to watch what may seem like a tragical event, turn a practice into a magical machine.
We have seen it all. Papers from floor to ceiling, phones systems that are older than my grandparents, and practice owners who are distraught and tired. Why? Their staff left, and over night. They didn't know the systems that needed to be nourished to fuel the practice. They were left in the dust, needing answers — yesterday.
We start small. One system at a time. We break down the piles and the papers and the systems, until the only thing left to play with is what you REALLY want for your practice. Then, we build up again.
The most common mistake many of our new students try to make is to build on top of chaos. No bueno. At all. Clear the chaos, then build.
My coach just taught me that SIMPLE is the way, keep it simple Jod. I like complicated. I like overwhelm. But my life doesn't. My life likes simple and calm and steady.
So here I go, learning with each of you. I am so glad you are here, teaching me the turns and twists of the path from tragical to magical.
Loving you from here,
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